Have you ever put off doing something at work, you're hoping it'll go away? Especially when it comes to particular team members? It's essential to take action to maintain those relationships.
Some situations in our professional life seem too daunting to manage. However, we should deal with them immediately to avoid having our inaction impact our relationships, professionalism and ultimately, the team.
How to develop this mindset at work:
A supervisor requests that you work on a project with someone from your team who you don't have a strong relationship with and you don't want to work with this team member. However, saying "no" isn't an option.
Generally, employees are expected to have good relationship management skills, but that's not always the case. In reflection, most of us would agree that there are people we would choose not to work with if given a choice.
Bottom line, you need to find a way to make the situation work.
How to make difficult work situations work:
When it comes to dealing with a difficult team member, it's important you try the following tips to help you navigate interactions.
- Use self-awareness and self-management skills to look inside yourself to develop a plan.
- Consider how your team member may be feeling about working with you.
- Use social awareness skills to empathize with your team member.
- Put yourself in their shoes and consider the situation from their perspective.
Why taking control of your emotions is critical:
During interactions with this particular team member be aware of your emotions and follow these suggestions:
- Don't allow your emotions to take over during discussions and decision making.
- Observe their body language and take cues from them.
- Actively listen and observe both verbal and non-verbal messages that encourage the conversation to flow.
- Establish common ground by first asking your team member about their preference and then share your choices for managing the project.
- Consider offering to manage some pieces of the project independently, and others collaboratively.