How often during your busy day do you stop to feel or self-manage your emotions? Many would answer that question with “rarely”. For numerous reasons we go through our daily routines without being fully aware of our emotions, they come and go not always as we wish them to.
Emotions send relevant messages and most often manage all we do. Too often we don’t stop to take time to read those messages.
Your Emotions Send Vital Messages
Checking your emotions and asking yourself why you feel the way you do or what made you react to a situation is essential to healthy self-management. Circumstances can and do hijack our emotions when we fail to recognize and manage them. Emotional hijacking can be related to something from our past such as a negative incident that creates uncomfortable feelings which in turn cultivates unwanted emotional responses.
Your Emotions Are Not You
As you begin to explore your emotions you deepen your self-awareness. It’s only then you begin to understand that your emotions are not you! Your emotions are what you feel, not what you are. As you become more mindful of your emotions you realize your emotions are experiential – which is what you feel. This is quite different from who you are - which is existential.
For example, you can say “I feel frustrated” or you can say “I am frustrated”. If you say, “I am frustrated” there is little you can do about it. Instead if you say “I feel frustrated” it is an experience you’re feeling and you can do something about it. You can control how you’re feeling by calming or ignoring the emotion for the time being until you’re better prepared to manage it.
How Intimate Are You With Your Emotions?
If you want to master the skill of managing your emotions you have to become intimate with them. Remember the more you pay attention to your emotions and question them the more self-aware you’ll become.