Proactive People Focus On What They Can Influence

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Harness the power of positivity, by focusing on what you can control and influence rather than your limitations. By changing your mindset, you’ll have the ability to live a life you’ve always wanted.


  • The more you focus on what you can influence, the more you will find you are able to influence. Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control.
    - Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Proactive People Focus On What They Can Influence, Marshall Connects

Ask yourself this…

How often do you find yourself focusing on your limitations rather than your freedoms? The truth is we’re hard-wired to focus on the negative – the things we can’t control rather than the positive – the things we can.

A positive attitude is paramount to our overall happiness.

Frequently, when coaching my clients, I find they focus on their limitations – the things they can’t control instead of what they can. This way of thinking is very restricting and negatively affects attitude and behaviour.

A positive attitude is paramount to our overall happiness. We have the choice to continuously focus on things that we deem “not fair” or we can put our energy into things we are free to influence.

When it comes to achieving a positive attitude, I recommend accepting the fact that life isn’t perfect and anticipate that you will encounter daily challenges.

Control your perception and develop a positive mindset.

It’s important to recognize that even if you can’t control a situation, you CAN control your perception of what’s happening, which influences your feelings. Ultimately, managing your emotions in these types of situations will help you stay in a positive mindset.

Control plays a huge role in our lives and the reality is there isn’t that much we can actually control. The quicker we learn to release the things we can’t control and practice what we can, the more fulfilling our lives will be.

The 7 things we have control of in life.

Catherine Goldberg, CEO of BrainBuzz, identifies seven things we can control in life:

  1. Your Breath
  2. Your Self-talk
  3. Your Gratitude
  4. Your Body Language
  5. Your Mental and Physical Fitness
  6. Your Diet
  7. Your Sleep

Once we realize the limitations of our control, we strengthen our emotional intelligence and adjust our attitude to focus and excel on what we can influence.  


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