How to Build and Cultivate Resilience in Life

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How resilient are you? Have you contemplated this lately? Resilience is part of our well-being; those who have high emotional intelligence tend to more emotionally resilient.

How to Build and Cultivate Resilience in Life, Marshall ConnectsMost of us accept that life is full of challenges and stress. As our emotional intelligence improves, we learn to cope and manage our problems, and as we do, we become more resilient. Hopefully, each time we work through an encounter, we learn from it, so the next time we face that situation or something similar, we find it more manageable.

Practise makes us more resilient

Strengthening self-awareness and self-reflection skills deepens our knowledge and ability to practise what we do.  I've personally experienced this, and I observe this in my clients; as they work through difficulties, they become more resilient and strengthen their emotional intelligence. By developing their emotional intelligence they are better able to manage themselves under pressure and stress. For this reason, the majority of our clients invest in Emotional Intelligence training programs. They see the value of providing professional development opportunities to their team to improve skills and developing resilience and a continual adjustment of behaviour through experiences as they happen.

How to build and cultivate resilience? 

Resilience is our ability to recover from adversity. Throughout our lives, most of us witness examples of resilience weekly, if not daily. It is incredible how well some people handle tremendous life challenges and bounce back. Their resilience not only helps them endure these circumstances, but they also become stronger and more resilient by overcoming them.

We can learn to be more resilient and cultivate this skill daily while improving our emotional intelligence. When we accept and grow from our errors and failures, we become more resilient. Yes, we can consciously build our resilience to support us during minor and significant challenges.

3 ways to build resilience

Author, Chade-Meng Tan shares in his book, Search Inside Yourself, that resilience is the ability to overcome obstacles along the way. He states we can train resilience on three levels:

  1. Inner calm: Once we can consistently access the inner calm in the mind, it becomes the foundation of all optimism and resilience.
  2. Emotional resilience: Success and failure are emotional experiences. By working at this level, we can increase our capacity for them.
  3. Cognitive resilience: Understanding how we explain our setbacks to ourselves and creating useful mental habits help us develop optimism.

As we learn and practise the above three levels of resilience, we will be better prepared to manage difficulties and bounce back from setbacks quickly while building our emotional intelligence. If you would like to become more resilient and improve your emotional intelligence, consider taking a self-assessment to provide a personal analysis of your perception of your behaviour.

This article was originally published on February 26, 2017, and has been updated.

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