The holidays can be a very joyous time and they can be stressful both financially and emotionally but hopefully during this time no matter our situation we can all have some restful and peaceful moments because we need them.
It is hard to believe that Christmas is only a week away, but then again I suppose we probably say that every year, because no matter what we do time just keeps on ticking. This last week I held webinars on How Maintaining Joy Can Change Your Life. It is easy for us to lose sight of the what makes us happy, what we are grateful for and being content with what we have.
Focus on Freedoms, not limitations.
If I can offer one suggestion to help you manage during the holidays it’s this; focus on your freedoms rather than your limitations.
When we focus on our limitations, the things we can’t do it becomes very restricting and affects our attitude and
Being Proactive will make the Holiday’s easier.
In Stephen Covey’s, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he states, “The more you focus on what you can influence, the more you will find you are able to influence.” Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which we have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges, and opportunities we face fall into two areas – Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence.
Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about – a good example of this over the holidays would be: getting enough rest and exercise, organizing your kids, setting a schedule that works for your family, spending only what makes sense for you right now.
Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. Such as things over which they have little or no control: The weather, your mother-in-law’s opinions, the conflict between aunt Jean and cousin Bill(!), the desire to want to give to everyone, but simply not having the means. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.
Your attitude is everything. You have the power to continuously focus on things in life that are not fair or you can focus on the things that are going well and accept that life isn’t perfect and admit you will encounter daily challenges that most often pass quickly. Keep in mind “less drama” is always better!
Develop an Attitude of Gratitude
REMEMBER even if you can’t control the situation: you always have a say in your perspective of what’s happening which influences your feelings. Take a closer look at how you are reacting to the situation. If you are focusing on restrictions you will feel demoralized. That type of negativity makes you feel helpless.
Control plays a big role in our lives. The key to managing in our busy world is to release all of the things that we can’t control and spend time focusing on and become skilled at the things we can control. To move forward positively, it’s imperative we accept there aren’t too many things that we can control.
- Your Breath
- Your Self-talk
- Your Gratitude
- Your Body Language
- Your Mental and Physical Fitness
- Your Diet
- Your Sleep
This year during the holidays consider ways to celebrate all the things that you can do with your family and friends. Embrace the possibilities and create joyful memories that you will revisit year after year.