A Surprising but Easy Way Reduce Emotional Hijacking

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One of our greatest challenges, without a doubt, is having the ability to employ our emotions to assist us in making rational decisions. When we recognize they guide all we do, we can use them to benefit us, avoiding any hijacks.


Anyone can become angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way-that is not easy. – Aristotle

The Influence of Your Emotions

A Surprising but Easy Way Reduce Emotional Hijacking, Marshall Connects

Developing our emotional intelligence, specifically our self-awareness, will inevitably change the way we conduct ourselves, including our decision-making skills. It is not a simple task; it takes time and a great deal of effort to learn to effectively read our emotions and understand how they affect our decision making as well as our ability to empathize with others. Managing them comes next, which requires considerable skill.

What is Emotional Hijacking?

A hijack circumstance is usually triggered by a situation that overwhelms you and then takes control of your behaviour. Ordinarily, it’s an explosion of overpowering and intense feelings that propel us to react, often to our detriment.

It is not a new phenomenon but has become more popular over the last 20+ years. Psychologist and author Daniel Goleman coined the term “amygdala hijack” in 1995 in his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. The amygdala is found in the temporal lobe of the brain and helps us perceive and feel anger, fear, and sadness, as well as control aggression. It regulates our fight or flight response (known as the acute stress response) to immediate threats. It sends us a signal, a “red flag” to us and our reaction depends upon our ability to manage our emotions.

Why we get hijacked?

Our emotions can quickly sneak upon us. It can happen in a matter of seconds at work; you get emotionally hijacked when a colleague disappoints you, and you lash out at them instead of taking the time to share your feelings calmly. After seeing the shock and hurt on your colleague’s face, you’re likely then embarrassed, and you regret your actions and decision to act impulsively. You wish you behaved more rationally because you’re aware of the significant amount of time it will take to repair this relationship.

In your personal life, how many times have you made a decision to purchase something that was a great deal! You were so excited about the opportunity and at that moment thought you needed or, perhaps, couldn’t live without the item only to realize later, not only was the item not in the budget, you didn’t need it after all.

All of these examples require appropriate responses to assist us to rationally make decisions from daily budgeting to managing danger and stress in our environment.

Ways to Take Control of an Emotional Hijacking

Our ability to understand and manage our feelings will empower us to make decisions that elevate our confidence. Believe it or not, your ability to breathe can save you from being hijacking. It’s hard to imagine if you take the time to stop and “just breathe” it only takes 10 seconds or less for your brain to become calm and regain control of highly charged situations. Once you regulate the feeling, you can move forward and manage the situation peacefully.

This strategy for managing these situations takes time to develop, but with daily practice, you will find this technique will assist with decision making and eventually eliminate regular emotional hijacking situations.


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