One of our biggest challenges, without a doubt, is using our emotions to make rational decisions. Once we recognize that emotions guide all we do, life gets easier.
Life is all about choices, and with those choices comes making the best rational decisions.
The Influence of Our Emotions
Emotions play a significant role in our life; they guide every decision we make. Therefore, carefully managing them is critical to our success. Developing your emotional intelligence by learning to recognize, understand, and manage your emotions will inevitably change the way you make decisions.
Focusing on the influence our emotions have on our decision making is significant because, in the snap of a finger, they can take over and direct us to say or do things that are not rational, which we may regret. Have you ever made a hasty decision and regretted it immediately? Most of us have been in a situation where our emotions took over, and we realized afterward that our behaviour or judgment was not rational.
Avoid Being Emotionally Hijacked
Emotional hijacking is quite common. It can happen in a matter of seconds at work; you get emotionally hijacked when a colleague disappoints you, and you lash out harshly instead of taking the time to share your feelings calmly. After seeing the shock and hurt on your colleague's face, you're embarrassed, and you regret your actions and decision to act impulsively. You wish you behaved more rationally because you're aware of the significant amount of time it will take to repair this relationship. It can quickly happen at home as well, sometimes a negative move will set us off, especially if we're tired and having a challenging day. As you become more self-aware, it becomes easier to understand and manage your emotions to reduce emotional hijacking.
Moods play a vital role in our lives and decision making; they are generally defined in two ways: positive or negative. Interestingly, moods are basically long-term emotional states that are not the same as emotions. Even good moods can affect how rational we behave. In your personal life, how many times have you purchased something that you thought you needed or couldn't live without? You realized later, not only was the purchase not in the budget, you really didn't need it. I've have let a positive mood get me into trouble, especially when shopping! When you're happy and excited, it's easy to do something you may regret later if you are not aware of your emotions.
Making Rational Decisions
Here's the thing, with practise you can make rational decisions. The next time you find making a decision challenging, try this:
Create a mental or physical "Emotions vs. Reason List." If you're creating a physical list, start by placing 'Emotions' on the left side of the page and ask yourself what your emotions are telling you to do. Place 'Reason/Rationale' on the right side of the page and ask yourself what your reason is telling you to do. Trying this exercise will help you clear your mind and use the facts to review your feelings in an organized, rational manner to make the best decision.