Over the last few months, I realized that I was feeling somewhat incomplete. After reflecting on who I was sharing my time with, it was apparent that I haven’t been spending enough time with my people…my tribe.
We all need a tribe to belong to
The people in my tribe are a big part of my community, and I was feeling deprived of the lack of contact with them. I needed to do some serious sharing and soul-searching with people who know me inside and out. There is nothing better than spending time with people who are good listeners, able to finish your sentences, and who have empathy. My tribe knows how I’m feeling and can call me out if necessary.
Building your ultimate tribe is critical.
It takes confidence, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to share your deepest secrets and fears; therefore, building your ultimate tribe is essential. I believe strongly in the late Jim Rohn’s quote, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I think about this from time to time and ask myself these questions:
- How solid is my tribe?
- Do I need to add to or reduce my tribe?
- Am I spending enough time with the people who I appreciate, enjoy, and who brings value to my life – my tribe?
Set aside time to share with your tribe
Long lunches or dinners weren’t going to cut it for me. I needed to spend more quality one-on-one time with my people. To really bond and confide with each other, we needed time, at least 24 hours. So, I got busy and set up four overnight get-a-ways. We took the time to share openly late into the night to reconnect. When you reflect on it, it’s your tribe who provides you with honest and authentic feedback because they know and love you unconditionally.
There are health benefits to sharing time with your tribe.
Once we got caught up with personal and family events, we were able to spend quality time brainstorming, collaborating and sharing ideas of things we could do in both our professional and personal lives to make a difference. Yes, we were able to positively impact each other by listening to what each of us shared. Spending this time together was a tremendous opportunity that opened my mind and heart and enriched my overall wellbeing. I felt inspired and energized after each get-a-away.