The friends you choose to have in your life, undoubtedly play a major role in who you are and who you become. Some studies even say that the right friends lower the risk of disease by reducing blood pressure, heart rate, and cholesterol.
The late Jim Rohn wrote that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. It’s true, the company you keep says a great deal about you.
Choose Your Friends WiselyThe friends you have in your life can impact what you end up achieving in your life. If you have specific career aspirations or a desire to increase your education it’s invaluable to ensure your friends are supportive of who you are and what is important to you.
They don’t necessarily need to be on the same life path or hold the same dreams, however, they need to be a positive support system and bring value to the relationship. Considering the way you think, feel, and behave is influenced greatly by your friends – it’s imperative we choose our friends wisely.
Be Careful of Who You Surround Yourself With
When it comes to our friends, Amy Morin advises the five reasons you should be careful who you surround yourself with:
- Strong-willed friends can increase your self-control.
- Fewer friends increase the likelihood you’ll take financial risks.
- Too many social media connections can increase your stress level.
- Close friends could be the secret to longevity.
- Friends can greatly influence your choices.
Relationships thrive on optimism. It’s an attitude that draws people to you. Negative people try to pull you down to their level. Most of us want to be near those who raise us up. Do you want to associate with those who bring you down, or do you want to be near those who build you up and inspire you? I choose to be around people who share my values and people I aspire to be like.
We may need to let some friends go to have a more meaningful life. It’s hard to do, but we need to consider how compatible they are with our values. You will quite possibly start acting like the people you surround yourself with. It’s not for us to tell people what we see as their shortcomings and we won’t singlehandedly change them or their life. We don’t have that power, but we do have the power to be the person we want to be.
If we spend time around people who are averse to our values, we run the risk of becoming more like them. And, fair or not, we will also be judged in life by the company we keep.