You have the power to prevent yourself from being an obstacle in your own way when you want to change your life. If we focus on the positive, we avoid negative thoughts from impacting the outcome.
Does it seem like no matter how hard you try to change your life, one obstacle after another gets in your way? You've convinced yourself change just isn't possible. Now, you're left feeling hopeless. You've given up.
You want to change your life. What's stopping you?
But consider this: maybe what's in your way is YOU.
That's right–these thoughts, the "I'm not good enough"–could be stopping you from changing your life. You've become conditioned to feeling like a failure, and you feel that way because you THINK that way.
Did you know you have more than 50,000 thoughts per day, and there's a special connection between what you think and feel, both physically and emotionally?
Regret, guilt, worry, anxiety. Do any of these emotions play a role in your thoughts? If so, those thoughts are negatively affecting you. They are thoughts and feelings that are obstacles disrupting and preventing you from moving forward.
Until you deal with them, you won't change your life...at least not the way you want to.
The thoughts that cloud your decisions
Do you ever find that making a simple decision isn't simply due to thoughts such as, 'but what about' or 'what if' or 'I feel bad' – all of these thoughts cloud decision making.
These are obstacles that stop you from focusing on the positive and trusting in yourself and others.
What if those obstacles weren’t there?
You can remove obstacles if you keep your thoughts positive, trust yourself, and focus on moving forward to reduce negative thoughts.
Due diligence is necessary to stay motivated in changing your life. Begin by managing your emotions and logically consider the situation. Then allow positive thinking and trust to lead you.
This starts with watching your own thoughts like a hawk.
This self-awareness comes with several benefits: namely vision and ability. When you have the vision and ability to focus, accurately perceive your emotions, and understand your tendencies across different situations, you'll begin to spot where you might be holding yourself back.
But this kind of self-awareness won't come overnight. But you can start by paying more attention to your thoughts each day. (And reading these five tips!)
Over time, developing your emotional intelligence will go a long way in helping you become more self-aware.
Simple steps to becoming more self-aware
Remember, negative self-talk is an obstacle that can rule your thoughts, derail you and plunge you into a descending emotional spiral! That’s why developing your emotional intelligence, and in particular, your self-awareness, is essential.
It will help you learn what the obstacles are that are holding you back and how to self-manage your inner thoughts.
(You can also find four simple practices to boost your positive self-talk right here)
6 Easy Ways to Eliminate Obstacles & Change Your Life
As for the actionable steps you can take right now to eliminate obstacles and change your life?
Here are six to start you off.
- Train your thoughts to be positive.
- Change the words: always or never into just ‘this time’ or ‘sometimes.’
- Make sure you treat situations as unique and separate from other situations.
- Be careful not to transfer one mistake to all situations.
- Use factual statements like “I made an error or mistake” instead of judgmental words like “I’m an idiot.
- Always accept responsibility for your actions and don’t blame others.
If you’re the obstacle in your way, adjust your behaviour and change your negative thoughts to positive ones!
Keep in mind; we believe the story that we tell ourselves each day!
Marshall Connects offers Emotional Intelligence Assessments and Coaching to enhance skill development in all areas, including self-management techniques like visualizing your success to improve overall productivity.
This article was originally published on July 7, 2018, and has been updated (February 2021).
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