What life lessons would you choose if asked to share an inspiring speech with college graduates? When I was honoured as a Distinguished Fellow Adjunct Professor by Mohawk College, it gave me a rare opportunity to reflect on my journey, the lessons I’ve learned about emotional intelligence, personal growth, legacy living, career motivation, and lifelong learning.
Life Lessons from the Other Side of the Stage: A Graduate’s Guide to Success
This opportunity reminded me of the value of lifelong learning and the impact of legacy living, especially at such pivotal milestones. While I was pleased and grateful for this achievement, one I never imagined possible, it gave me the rare chance to reflect. I took a thoughtful walk down memory lane, sifting through the moments that shaped my path. Sharing these insights with graduates was a humbling experience, reminding me that our personal stories shape who we are, and we have the power to inspire those who follow.
Here are the life lessons I shared with the graduates:
Mindset Matters
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You are the author of your life. You hold the pen, and you decide what the next chapter says. That means your success and your setbacks are within your control.
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Often, our biggest obstacle is ourselves. Watch your inner dialogue. Don't let self-doubt write your story.
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Follow your passion. Passion won't always make things easier, but it will make the effort worthwhile. It keeps the spark alive when motivation fades.
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Make your goals known. People cannot support what they do not know. Share your aspirations, you'll be surprised who shows up to help.
Emotional Intelligence Wins
- Your achievement drive will either elevate you or exhaust you. Know when to push, but also when to pause.
- Enhancing your emotional intelligence will set you apart. It's the secret ingredient to thriving in both your personal and professional life.
- Be aware of your strengths and your gaps. This kind of self-awareness isn't easy, but it's powerful. It helps build confidence and resilience.
- Keep it real. Authenticity is magnetic. In a world that often rewards conformity, your realness is your superpower.
Action & Impact
- Learn from others. Stay curious. The smartest people I know ask the most questions.
- Move forward with courage. You will fall down. We all do. But your resiliency, not your missteps, will define you.
- Embrace your challenges. The hard times build the strongest foundations. They are painful but necessary growth.
- Never give up. If one path doesn't work, carve a new one. And never be afraid to ask for help.
Legacy Living
- Join the Lifelong Learner Club. Graduation isn't the end—it's the beginning. Stay open. Stay humble. Stay hungry.
- Live your legacy. Think about what you project to others. Visit your values often. Ensure that your actions align with what truly matters.
Preparing this speech was a gift, an opportunity to revisit the importance of emotional intelligence, career motivation, and lifelong learning. Every step I’ve taken from detours to milestones has contributed to the person I am today. I hope the lessons I shared with these graduates will help them shape their own journeys.
As you step into your next chapter, I invite you to reflect on: What lesson has shaped you the most? And what lesson will you pass on?
Your story is just beginning. Make it count.
If you're curious about how emotional intelligence can elevate your personal and professional life, consider taking an emotional intelligence assessment. It can uncover areas for growth that could transform how you lead, communicate, and live. You can also explore these insights in my book, The Power of Emotion, a practical guide to maximizing emotional intelligence.
This article was originally published on July 1, 2017, and has been updated (May 2025).
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