Developing your emotional intelligence (EI) will improve your life both personally and professionally. This is why I have outlined ways you can develop and strengthen this skill. It's also why this is such a significant component of the courses and training I offer.
EI has become very buzz-worthy! I recently wrote a blog called, What is Emotional Intelligence? I outlined why emotional intelligence is so valuable to your overall success in life.
Included in that blog, I discuss why emotional intelligence is "the other kind of smart":
"It's also the number one predictor of success, both personally and professionally. We all know someone who is academically brilliant, otherwise known as "book smart." Yet, those same people are (often) socially unskilled.
On the subject of social skills, take a look at this post, where I share the unlimited benefits of having social awareness at work.
Emotional intelligence is an individual's ability to recognize, understand, and manage their feelings and those of others. After all, learning how to communicate one's emotions effectively while interpreting and responding to others is key to success in life.
Without a doubt, learning to manage your emotions will make you more successful.
Emotional intelligence isn’t fixed at birthUnlike IQ, emotional intelligence or EI is not fixed at birth and is something you can grow and develop.
Did you know that learning new skills creates permanent physical changes in the brain? The more we develop our self-awareness by recognizing and understanding our emotions and reactions, the more we build our emotional muscle, enhance our emotional intelligence, and strengthen our Emotional Quotient (EQ).
Today, I will share four ways to strengthen your EI to start you on this path to change your life.
How you can strengthen your emotional intelligence
- Start by enhancing your self-management skills. This happens through the way you control and adapt your emotions, mood, reactions, and responses.
- Begin harnessing your emotions to motivate yourself to take appropriate action, commit, follow through, and work toward achieving your goals. (On the subject of emotions, you will also want to take a look at this post next: A Surprising but Easy Strategy to Reduce Emotional Hijacking)
- Develop empathy by discerning the feelings of others, understanding their emotions, and utilizing that understanding to relate to others more effectively. (Read about developing empathy in this post)
- Build relationships, communicate with others in social situations, lead, negotiate conflict, and work as part of a team.
Some interesting statistics
Emotional intelligence is so critical to success that it accounts for 58% of performance in all types of jobs, making it something well worth working on. Furthermore, research indicates individuals with high emotional intelligence are ten times more productive than those with low emotional intelligence. It's no wonder 90% of top performers score high in emotional intelligence!
Strengthening your EI is definitely within your reach, and as I've mentioned, it will positively impact your life.
And leaders, this is for you: take a look at my EI Assessments and Coaching services to learn what makes an emotionally effective leader. Emotionally intelligent leaders employ specific emotional and social skills to impact how they perceive and express themselves, develop and maintain relationships, and cope with everyday challenges. These skills help them get better results, faster, and with less stress and drama. And you can learn all of these skills in my seven-hour intensive workshops.
Looking for even more tools and resources to strengthen your emotional intelligence and impact your life? I have a course coming up right away. From May 18 to June 15, you can participate in my online EI course to develop the skills we just discussed (and more). To see session dates and get more information, click here.
This article was originally published on July 8, 2017, and has been updated (May 2021).
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